Soldier jailed over child abuse

A soldier who molested a boy and a girl in their beds was told by a sheriff he had destroyed their sense of security.

Callum Sandeman, 22, who served with the Black Watch at Fort George, was jailed at Inverness Sheriff Court for 18 months.

He had earlier admitted using lewd, indecent and libidinous behaviour towards the children last November.

His solicitor said on the night Sandeman was drunk "to the point of oblivion".

Sheriff Alexander Pollock said there was no alternative to a prison sentence.

'No excuse'

He told Sandeman, who has been placed on the sex offenders register: "You have pled guilty to very serious charges.

"The sequence of events has involved sexual activity of the more reprehensible kind, not only because of the acts themselves but also because of the place those acts occurred, namely in the children's beds, in their own bedroom where they were entitled to feel safe.

"That sense of security was destroyed on that night by what you did.

"There is also the trauma each of them continued to suffer, for which you must also bear responsibility."

Sheriff Pollock said testimonials presented to the court had shown Sandeman to have been an exemplary member of his regiment.

He added: "That, however, can in no way excuse what you did any more than the substantial amount of alcohol you consumed. Drink in law is no excuse."

The court was earlier told Sandeman entered a house and molested a nine-year-old boy and his seven-year-old sister.

Their father found Sandeman lying in his daughter's bed.

Source: BBC News

How to handle child abuse

1) Parent can prevent or lessen the chance of sexual abuse

Telling children that if someone tries to touch your body and do thing that make you feel funny, say NO to that person and tell me right away. Teaching children that respect does not mean blind obedient to adults and to authority, for example, don't tell children to, always do everything the teacher or baby sitter tell you to do. Encouraging professional prevention programs in the local school system. Sexually abused children and their families need immediate professional evaluation and treatment. Child and adolescent psychiatrist can help abused children regain a sense of self-esteem, cope with feeling of guilt about the abuse, and begin the process of overcoming the trauma. such treatment can help reduce the risk that the child will develop serious problem as an adult.

2) Primary prevention

Primary prevention consist of activities that are targeted at the community level. These activities are meant to impact families prior to any allegations of abuse and neglect. Primary prevention services include public education or activities, parent education classes that are open to anyone in the community for parents or abusers to interact with the child, and family support programs. Primary prevention can be difficult to measure because you are attempting to impact something before it happens, an unknown variable.

3) Secondary prevention

Secondary prevention consist of activities targeted to families that have one or more risk factors including families with substance abuse, teen parents, parents of special need children, single parents, and low income families. Secondary prevention services include parent classes targeted for high risk parent, respite care for parents of a child with a disability, or home visiting programs for new parents.

4) Treatment

Trauma focused cognitive behavioral therapy has been used to help children exposed to any type of trauma, although it was originally designed for survivors of sexual abuse. It targets trauma-related symptoms in children including depression, and anxiety.

Abuse-focused cognitive behavioral therapy was design for children who have experience physical abuse. It targets externalizing behaviors and strengthens pro social behaviors. Offending parents are included in treatment, to improve parenting skills/practices.

Child parent psychotherapy was design to improve the child parent relationship following the experience of domestic violence. It target trauma related symptoms in infants, toddlers, and preschoolers, including aggression, defiance an anxiety.

Effect of Child Abuse

• Numerous effect and Consequences - Child abuse in its various form has numerous effects and consequences, both tangible and intangible, upon society, those mistreated, and those entrusted with the responsibility of its detection, prevention, and treatment. Child abuse can have dire consequences, during both childhood and adulthood. The effect of being abused as a child vary according to the severity of the abuse and the surrounding environment of the child. If the family or school environment is nurturing and supportive, the child will probably have a healthier outcome.

• Problem in School and Woor - The behavior effect include problem in school and woor. This can make the presentation at the school and work be a worse. In case sexual case, can effect when have a teen pregnancy. The future life can be a destroy and the effect will getting worse. The more of negative consequences of child abuse is a deliquency, sicide attempts, criminal or antisocial behavior.Child abuse can make the problem like subtance abuse, aggressive behavior spousal and child and child abuse anger. We have to take action before this statements will be worse. Government and privacy need do something like laws and campain loving family.

• Extremely Fearful of Telling - Child sexual abusers can make the child extremely fearful of telling and only when a special effort has helped the child to feel safe, can the child talk freely. If a child says that he or she has been molested, parents should try to remain calm and reassure the child that what happened was not their fault. parents should seek a medical examination and psychiatric consultation.
  
  

Types of Child Abuse

• Physical Abuse - physical abuse is hitting hard with a hand or an object like a belt, especially hits that leave bruises or cuts. shaking, choking, painful grabbing and kicking can also be physical abuse.

• Sexual Abuse - body has private parts. These are the parts that arcovered by your bathing suit or underwear: breasts, vagina and bottom for girl and penis and bottom for boys. If an adult or older kid touches a kids private parts or tells a kid to touch theirs, it is sexual abuse. when this happens, the abuser might tell the kid that this touching is a secret and that they cant tell anyone. But a kid does not have to keep this secret. Tell a trusted adult, or more than one, until someone takes action.

• Verbal or Emotional Abuse - This kind of abuse can happen without touching. It can be verbal abuse if someone yells all the time, calls the kid mean names, or threatens to leave the kid or have him or her adopted. All kids deserve to have adults in their lives who love and support them as they as grow up. Its common for parent get angry with their kids once in a while, but if there yelling, punishing, and threatening too much of the time, a kid can start feeling really bad about himself or herself. And just like with physical form of abuse, its a good idea to tell a trusted adult this is happening.

• Physical Neglect - Neglect happen when kids live in a home where the adults dont give them basic stuff that all kids need like food, clean clothes, and a bed to sleep in. when parents or get checkups or medicine when they need them.
  

What is Child abuse???

Child abuse is the physical, emotional or sexual abuse or neglect of children. While most Child abuses happens in the child's home, large number of cases of child abuse have been identified within some organization involving children, such as churches, school, child care business, and residential schools. It also can occur almost anywhere. For example kidnappings, random murders and so on. According to a recent UNICEF report on child well-being the United States and The United Kingdom ranked lowest among first world nation with respect to the well being of their children. This study also found that child neglect and child abuses are far more common in single-parent families than in families where both parents are present. There are many form of abuse and neglect and many government have developed their own legal definition of what constitutes child maltreatment for the purposes of removing a child and/or prosecuting a criminal charge. In the United states, the Federal Government puts out a full definition of child abuses and neglect and creates a summary of each state definition. Most abused children suffer greater emotional than physical damage. An abused child may become depressed. He or she may withdraw think of suicide or become violent. An older child may use drugs or alcohol, try to run away or abuse others.

Statistic from JKM

This one is the statistics from Jabatan Kebajikan Masyarakat about the cases of child abuse.
It show the types of child abuses like abandoned, neglected, physical, sexual, emotional, and incest. As we see, neglected types show an increasing cases from 2001 until 2006. It is also same with sexual abuses that show 251 casses in 2001 and increasing to 670 cases in 2006.
Overall of this statistics, the total of all types abuses getting more serious and show an increasing cases.

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This blog is a voice of our view. What we try to do is to show every one of us, about the fact of child abused. This one is for introduction. In this blog, we try to show some of the cases, the statistic, the causes, and the solution of what can we do to prevent child abused. Hopefully what we try to do can give us awareness about this. Adios...